Thursday, January 8, 2015

Still Whole

"The more we do to give our family an identity
 by itself, without their Dad,
I think it will help them understand that
we aren't missing anything.
 It's not a situation we chose to be in,
but we're still a whole family,
and we're going to be okay."
 
- Susan, single mom
Divorce Care for Kids (DC4K)
(Emphasis mine)
 
 


I "liked" this page on Facebook more than a year ago,
along with it's parent page,
Divorce Care.
It's been encouraging and,
 periodically,
a positive voice 
in the midst of my sometimes very negative mental storms.
 
 
 
 
 
Although we must remember that there are some single fathers out there,
rendering the above statement to be read a bit differently,
let us be careful not to discredit it's core meaning.
 
 



A single parent household,
whether mom or dad,
is not inherently "broken".
 
Like so many endeavors in our lives,
our journey will become what we make of it.
Indeed, we will have difficult and trying days,
but this should not define our journey.
 
 
 
 
 
I like the above quote
because it encompasses the meaning of this blog.
 Me and my children certainly are still a whole family!
We still claim our traditions,
our pet names,
our silly ways,
our routines,
our preferences,
our memories,
our nostalgia,
our favorite meals,
our favorites hangouts,
our favorite cuddle positions,
tickle spots,
and quirky phrases.
 
 
 
 
 
You still have these, and more!
Perhaps you cannot quite put your finger on all your familial habits.
All the better!
There's no need.
They're yours.
Just ruminate on them.
Bask.
Enjoy.
Be blessed and nourished.
Then share a bit with your kin.
 
 
 

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